Marking Moments

New Year’s Day has come and gone and now comes the task of returning to normal, everyday life. Many have said that this past year (or perhaps the entire decade) is best forgotten. I’d be hard pressed to argue that major social and economic upheavals have not touched everyone in some way, but throwing an entire period away is akin to tossing out the baby with the bath water.

Think a minute and recall the times of unparalleled joy in the last year. We’ve all had them, you know, whether they be of the personal or professional genre. We’re not very good at marking our moments anymore, though. Is it because our fast-paced life style has us looking at the next square before enjoying the one we’re currently occupying?

I’m not suggesting we wallow in some hazy-focused memory of better times. But if we fail to take the time to mark the moments that define us, we lose perspective for what is yet to come. And don’t confuse me with the eternal optimist, either. Those that know me would propose that I’m something less than Little Mary Sunshine and that’s fine with me. After all, a pessimist is nothing more than an optimist with experience.

Think of your life as a series of chapters, if you will. We each find ourselves at the close of a chapter from time to time. Sometimes this end-of-phase is completely out of our control. Death or down-sizing, to name two. Others, fortunately, can be more easily foreseen and afford the opportunity to soak in the final days of the enterprise. I am entering the last year of my airline aviation career. Knowing that my time is reasonably short, I will mark many moments over the next twelve months. Some will be good and others less-than-pleasant. Regardless, each marked moment will be available for my recollection after my participation has ceased. And what better way to relive the glory while keeping in mind the shortfalls and frustrations that ultimately accompany any endeavor.

  

Without our marking of important passages, including both good and bad, we can easily slide into thinking that things were better than they actually were.This leads us into second-guessing our decision (if one was involved) to close the chapter. And that takes time away from looking to the future and the possibilities it holds. To simply discard a year (or decade) out of hand is a disservice to the accomplishments throughout the period and to the moments that deserve remembrance. It’s not too late to reflect over the past year (or decade) and sift out those nuggets. And it’s not too soon to resolve marking future moments as they present themselves. It may well be the best resolution of the new year.